H.L. Farmer & Sons

A week ago, we visited H. L. Farmer & Sons funeral home. It had been on our To-Do list for a long time, but my current, nose-to-nose conversation with stage-4 lung cancer sort of pushed the envelope.


  • In Massachusetts, a body cannot be cremated within 48 hours of death?
  • Saturday burials can incur a cemetery overtime charge, or they just don’t bury at certain times?
  • You can save a ton of money by having the funeral service after cremation?

The whole thing is an expensive proposition, with a headstone adding even more. You’d be surprised, though, by all the work that goes into disposing of your remains, and how kind and helpful these professionals are.

Cancer ratcheted my funeral arrangements toward the top of the pile, especially with lesions showing up elsewhere. I’ve started a med that might give me extra time, but as you know, I’m not keen on hanging around forever. The name of the med is Crizotinib, and we’ll see how the side effects go. A rash is possible. Will I turn purple or chartreuse? One neat God thing: my medical insurance is paying the total price—($16,000).

My body may be full of cancer, but my soul is full of the love of God.

Eugene Peterson, one of my favorite authors, asks the proverbial question, “If you were shipwrecked on a desert island, what book would you wish you had?” His best answer was A Practical Guide to Boat Building.

But then he goes on to say that the entire Bible is God’s word for shipwrecked people, making plain the way of salvation. 

2 Corinthians 5:21  For He made [Jesus] who knew no sin to be sin for us, that we might become the righteousness of God in Him.

Titus 3:4   When the kindness and love of God our Savior appeared, he saved us, not because of righteous things we had done, but  because of his mercy. 

My boat is built and ready to sail!

Many of you have commented, or sent notes or emails. I try to respond, but the time may come when you won’t hear back. I haven’t stopped loving you; I’m just busy getting into the boat.
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